That baby bump has arrived (I’d hardly call it a bump, it’s a full on belly). I went from looking like I’d had a few too many burritos at one sitting, to looking like (in the words of my sister) looking like I’d swallowed a watermelon whole. I’m a little nervous about how fast its growing… making sure I keep up with my prenatal yoga and daily walks is a high priority, as well as eating more fruits and veggies than anything else. On the other hand, we are so thankful to see that this baby is growing and healthy as can be.
I don’t have to remind people that we live in a messed up world, but sometimes there are days when I just can’t get over it.
One of Joel’s students, a young girl, barely a teenager, found out she was pregnant recently. Because I am also pregnant, Joel was able to pick up on her symptoms and sit down with her to talk. She didn’t want to keep the baby, but she didn’t want to have an abortion either. She mostly didn’t want her father to find out. Joel obviously talked with her about her home life/family relationships and the importance of getting good medical care for both her and the child, regardless of what decision she made in the future.
He also talked to her about adoption, something that is just unthought of in our community. If you have any emotions toward the baby growing inside you, and your family won’t turn you out, you keep it. If not, you have an abortion. The reasoning behind this definitely differs between the African Americans, the Islanders and the Latin Americans, but the result is the same.
This young girl agreed to meet with one of our good friends who has adopted two of her children, just to hear her story and understand what adoption could look like.
We began praying not only for her and the little one inside of her, but that God would provide a family to love and parent this baby.
And then she went awol. No one could get a hold of her.
Her mother took her to have an abortion on Wednesday. From what Joel has heard from them, he doesn’t feel that it was the daughter’s decision so much as the mother’s. She was worried that if her husband found out, he would leave them again.
Joel got calls from other workers in this girl’s life yesterday who are concerned for her, because after carrying this secret inside her for the last few months, she is now blurting to everyone “I had an abortion”… I’m sure she doesn’t know how to even begin processing her pain. I can’t imagine.
She was almost 15 weeks.
I’m 15 weeks today.
Our babies the size of a navel orange, with eyes and ears, and fingers and toes, and the ability to suck and swallow.
We’re having a baby! Our little one is due to meet us on July 21st. We are pretty excited, and have had a hard time keeping it quiet these last few months, but now that we’re into the second trimester we feel free to share our joy with everyone :)
I haven’t blogged much, because really, this coming baby has affected how we are thinking about everything in our current and changing circumstances. And also, because I’ve been one of those blessed prego ladies who spends most of her time in the bathroom or on the couch waiting to head back into the bathroom (lovely thought, I know).
We have a lot of big decisions coming up, like where to live (don’t think we can cram a baby in this tiny studio), how we live ($ $ $), etc etc. But we’re just really happy that we are going to have a little one to share life with, and about this whole new journey we are embarking on.
For those of you who are wondering about us adopting, we are still planning on doing so and are looking forward to all the ways God is going to be growing our family.
Today marks Epiphany, the culmination of the 12 Days of Christmas. It means, the manifestation of God. That God put on skin and came down and dwelt among us. Historically this is when the church celebrates the coming of the Magi, and meditates on what it means to bring your treasures and lay them down at the feet of Jesus and simply worship.
“And behold, the star that they had seen when it rose went before them until it came to rest over the place where the child was. When they saw the star, they rejoiced exceedingly with great joy. And going into the house they saw the child with Mary his mother, and they fell down and worshiped him.” [Matt 2:9-11]
Growing up neither of us ever celebrated Epiphany, nor can I ever remember hearing much about it in the church. But as we begin to consider what kind of traditions we want to impart to our own family, we have taken a closer look at the special celebrations that are part of the church calendar and how we want to share them with our own children.
Some Epiphany traditions to consider practicing with your own family.
Photo taken at Moosehead Lake.
We have been on such a tight little budget since getting married, that we could never afford to purchase more than a handful of our wedding photos. But my ever amazing husband arranged to get the discs full of our wedding photos sent to us for Christmas–So now we have them all!!! I’m so excited, I can’t wait to go through them all, maybe make an album, and be able to share them with people who couldn’t make it to our special day.
Photo by Danette Chappell Photography